I have yet to convince people they cannot tie my shoelaces. Telling my friend I could do it as fast with one hand as she could do it with two hands was not a deterrent. She said "I could tie your shoe at least once so you won't have to." My strategy to handle this more gracefully next time will be to point and say "Can you tie a shoelace that has only one free end?" The strategy above works. Able-bodied people no longer get upset when I will not let them help me tie my shoe.
May 29, 2017
Some People Feel Compelled to Help
I snapped at a dear friend when she offered to retie my loose shoelace. Even though I said I could do it, she insisted on helping. This made me angry because every doctor I have seen since my stroke reaches down to untie my shoes during a physical exam. They do this quickly because they know it is inappropriate for a male doctor to undress a female patient. I do not know how old I was when I decided my clothing is a part of my personal space, but it was a long time ago.