When I forgot to pick up a friend I felt guilty. She blamed herself because she thought she had remembered the wrong date. This painful experience taught me that memory aids have to be in my face. I can repeatedly ignore reminders that are sitting in an out of the way place.
1. The current month sits on my kitchen table where I eat breakfast. I use 1 colored tab to mark the next important an date and move it when the event is over. 2. I fold the page for each month in half and put them in a napkin holder. Pieces of paper are stuffed in their respective month. The arrow is pointing to a month with a postcard from my dentist reminding me to make an appointment. I got that postcard six weeks ago. If I had put the postcard on my kitchen counter, who knows where it would be now.
3. I keep sticky Post-It notes and a pen every where I sit so I can write notes and stick them on my shirt. If I leave the note on my shirt too long it falls off when I walk. When that happens I stop what I am doing and do what is written on the note.
A word of caution about memory aids. What helps one person remember does not make a bit of sense to another person. The memory aids I use are only examples that may help you discover memory aids that work for you. Negotiate with your family to find a prominent place you can put your memory aids. It may require others to adjust to a few changes, but they will benefit from your improved memory.